First and foremost: The rules apply to everyone, even if they haven't read them. Your failure to read the rules, which are listed in the community userinfo, is not our problem. Also, if you make a post and within the first half-hour, half a dozen community members have posted telling you that it's off-topic or violates community rules, you probably ought to take the hint. If you delete a rules-violating post on your own, no harm done, but if I have to do it for you even though it's already been pointed out to you that it violates the rules, you'll probably get a warning for it. Also, if you feel the need to add a disclaimer to your post about why you
it's breaking a rule, it probably is in fact breaking a rule, and will get deleted, earning you a warning to boot.hip_domestics
operates on a three-strikes-you're-out system: Your third warning gets you permanently banned from the community. We DO keep track of warnings, when they were given, by whom and why. We also don't delete posts without leaving a comment explaining why. We are usually pretty lenient with first warnings - however, after you've had one post deleted for rules violations, we expect that you have read the rules and are no longer as lenient.
Spam is forbidden, and will be deleted without warning. "Spam" includes community ads, pyramid schemes, chain emails, referral links, and any notice designed to attract patronage. Such posts will be deleted immediately and reported as Spam.
*USE DESCRIPTIVE SUBJECT LINES*
Descriptive subject lines are required. If you forget, the memory maintainers will remind you, but we'd prefer you simply didn't forget.
*NO OFF-TOPIC POSTS*
If you have to preface your post with "this may not be hip or domestic, but..." or some variation thereof, it probably isn't, and it doesn't belong here.
If you finish it up with "Mods, feel free to delete..." or some variation thereof, we probably will, and it probably doesn't belong here.
If you wouldn't discuss a topic over the dinner table or around the water cooler at work, put it behind an lj-cut. The cut description must make the reader aware of what they're getting into. (As a side note: Please use common sense. This is not sextips
. If you have a sexually explicit question, this is not the place for it.) The mods will do the best we can to stay on top of this, but if you see something that should be behind a cut, it is ok to politely request such if no one else has already done so. All photos must be behind an lj-cut. Posts longer than a paragraph or two should also be cut; use common sense. Again, the mods will do the best we can to stay on top of this, but if you see something that should be behind a cut, it is ok to politely request such if no one else has already done so.
*NO SOLICITING PROFESSIONAL OPINIONS*
There is liability involved when people dispense medical, legal, real estate, financial, and veterinary advice. Asking for things such as budget tips, pet stain removal, and home remedies for headaches is appropriate. However, if you would normally pay someone money to gain an answer to your question, it doesn't belong here, and such posts will be deleted without warning.
"What is everyone's favorite perfume"-type posts don't really add anything of value to the community, and will be deleted posthaste.
*DO YOUR HOMEWORK BEFORE YOU POST*
The memory maintainers are working hard to expand the memories section, and pointing posters in that direction is not out of line. Posting a Google link to a question that obviously should have been Googled isn't entirely out of line, either, we just ask that you use discretion.
*POST AND COMMENT WITH RESPECT*
As long as a comment is helpful, we've no problem with it. Everyone here has different personalities and different manners of speaking, and some are simply more blunt than others. Things such as name-calling and downright rude and unhelpful comments are off-limits and will be deleted.
*KEEP THE DRAMA WHERE IT BELONGS*
There are communities that like drama. Keep your drama there. Drama here gets deleted.
*KEEP UPDATES IN THE ORIGINAL POST*
Every once in a while, we like to share how we solved a problem we posted about. However, we request that these updates be added as an amendment to the original post, rather than a new post on their own. To edit your post, go to the comment view page and click the blue pencil icon.
*DO NOT POST COMMUNITY BUSINESS IN MODS' PERSONAL JOURNALS*
While we never figured this needed to be said, it apparently does. Do not follow the community mods into their personal journals if you have an issue. Send an email to the address on the community info page or a message to one of the mods - we all have some sort of contact info listed publicly on our userinfo pages. (For reference, that's me, tappanga
, and missmalice
. Harassing the memory maintainers will do you no good, as they'll simply tell you to talk to one of us anyway.) Away from this community, we are ordinary LJ journalers, and have the right to respond as such to unwelcome commentary in our personal journals.
*NO GIFT-GIVING ADVICE QUESTIONS*
Seriously, you KNOW the person you are giving the gift to, what makes you think perfect strangers will know the taste of your loved one better than you? The mods have agreed that the gift-giving advice posts are usually non-productive and we don't want to clutter friends lists with them. So please refrain from asking questions like "What should I get (relative/friend/space alien) for (holiday/occasion/no particular reason)?" Note: While this rule was originally a preemptive strike against holiday shopping woes, it IS in effect year round.